I woke up several mornings ago and had a conversation with God about my feelings. I was telling Him about how my husband was making me feel and about how this was unfair and that was unfair and I remembered my resolution for this year: no negative thoughts. I had not gone into a full-blown pity party session but I could have easily arrived at that party if I would have continued down the road of negativity that I was traveling.
Was everything that I was feeling true, yes. Was everything that I was telling God true, yes. But I had to make a choice. Would I continue this negative conversation or would I state the facts and then ask the Lord for help in dealing with them. And in asking for help, I would also speak and think God’s word and turn my negative feelings and thoughts into positive declarations.
Each one of us determines whose voice we will listen to. There are three voices that put thoughts into our heads: God’s, satan’s and our’s. We have to determine whose voice it is and how are we going to react to that voice.
Example: You are a married woman of God with three children and a good husband and one day you notice a new male coworker. You and he start a friendship. At first you laugh and joke with him and your other coworkers but slowly thoughts of how attractive he is come into your head. This is the moment that you pause and ask yourself “whose thoughts are theses?”
Determining whose thoughts they are will help you in knowing which direction to go in.
1.They are yours. You and your husband have been having problems in your marriage and these thoughts make you feel good about yourself. You must cast out these thoughts and start asking God to strengthen your marriage and end the friendship with your new coworker. Seek out scriptures on self-control and being a loving spouse. And guard your mind and heart from thought that would lead you down a road to divorce.
“…bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ” 2 Corth 10:5
2. They are satan’s. Your marriage is wonderful and strong in the Lord and you have never and would never look at another man with thoughts of possible sleeping with him. Rebuke the devil and his thoughts. But also walk cautiously in this friendship knowing the devil is looking for a way to destroying your relationship with God and your husband.
“ The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy…” John 10:10
3. They are God’s . We know 100% the thoughts are not God’s because He would never go against His word. Marriage is God’s glorious plan and it does not permit a third-party.
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jer. 29:11
So whose thoughts were rolling around inside of my head, my own and satan’s. The fact that I resolved to make 2015 a year where negative thoughts would not prevail shows that in the past I have battled with this issue. The enemy has done much to try to destroy my future but he did not act alone. My willingness to hold onto negative thoughts and emotions became the door that the enemy used to hinder me. But no more, I recognized that Negative thoughts = negative emotions=negative actions.
So I made a choice this year to not focus on the negative but focus on the one that could turn everything for my good. God gave me the free will to choice who I would listen to and believe, just as He gave each one of you your own free will. I chose to mediate on the things of the Lord. Philippines 4:8 tells us to think on things that are “ true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things”.
If you have negative thoughts, examine where they are coming from and deal with them. Chose today to listen to God, let His thoughts be your thoughts. The chose is yours to make.
“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…” Proverbs 23:7